STEPS TO LEAVE A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP?
HERE ARE SOME COMMON THOUGHTS & BELIEFS
“It’s easier said than done.”
“We’re sacrificing ourselves for the sake of our kids. Afraid to have a broken family.”
“I want to leave this relationship but I can’t. My husband/ boyfriend is threatening me that he will commit suicide once I leave him or he will haunt us and kill us.”
“I don’t have money to sustain nor provide for our needs if we leave him. What will happen to us?”
“I can’t. I love him too much even though he beats me.”
These are the few reasons why women still stay even if they have all the reasons in the world to leave. We all heard these lame reasons a million times, from different people, in different parts of world, in different languages. These are the words that you’ll always hear from someone who’s in a toxic relationship whenever you give them advice to let go of someone whose just hurting them. Those people who are physically, emotionally, verbally, financially battered. The truth is they are use to the pain, the environment and very scared to let go because of what ifs. So here are a few steps to let go of a toxic relationship.
1. LEAVE. JUST DO IT.
No matter how hard it is, if it is not healthy for both of you especially if you have kids involved. LEAVE. Think about your kid’s sake.
2. REMEMBER ALL THE PAINFUL THINGS THAT YOU GOT FROM YOUR PARTNER.
Never forget every bad things that he has done to you, all the painful words that he told you. Make this an inspiration to stop loving him. Leave someone who does not appreciate your presence.
3. ASK HELP FROM YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS.
You need to have full back-up support from your family in order to find the strength to leave. Your family and friends should be the first to know your situation, and help you leave the situation.
4. IF YOU HAVE KIDS, FILE A CASE FOR FINANCIAL SUPPORT.
If you are a mother, being weak is not an option. Asking for financial support from the father is not a sign of weakness. It is your right and his obligation for the kid/s.
5. IF YOU ARE A BATTERED WIFE/GIRLFRIEND, FILE A CASE AGAINST HIM.
Gather enough evidences for you to win your case. Be brave enough and do everything to find the justice you deserve. You were not born to be a punching bag. The pain, the trauma, the damage he caused you should motivate you to seek justice.
6. BE FIRM WITH YOUR DECISION
Now here is the tricky part, your ex will always say he is sorry and tell you words that will touch your heart. Never believe his words. Mostly, guys will run after you and beg you to come back. Learn to say NO. A toxic partner he will always be a toxic partner.
7. CUT ALL THE COMMUNICATION.
8. ACCEPT EVERYTHING.
For you to leave a toxic relationship totally, you must learn how to accept everything that isn’t meant to be.
9. CHOOSE HAPPINESS OVER THE PAIN.
When you are in a toxic relationship you think that choosing the painful situation will still make you happy but the truth is, it is ruining you. It is eating at your soul. Leave and choose happiness.
10. LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES.
Move on. Don’t rush yourself to be in a relationship again. Rest. Pick up the pieces of yourself. Heal. Love yourself.
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